Showing posts from March, 2015

Single in the City

Part 1

Divorce. Such an ugly, frowned upon word.

I have officially been divorced for 37 days. After 9 and a half years with the same wonderful person I am suddenly starting all over again. And it is terrifying.

You don't get it until you're right in the middle of the storm. You think people who get divorced just gave up, or didn't try hard enough. Or that the person chose it, so they must be fine, right?

No. Divorce is like a hurricane that rips everything you knew and had to shreds. You have to deal with the overwhelming feeling of your heart being ripped out of your chest. It physically aches. But you still have to get up and show up. You cry. Often on the inside, because you still have to work and be a productive member of society. Life goes on, with or without you. You take things hour by hour. Then day by day. Focus on admin. Talk to lawyers. You hold your tears in court. You state your case with a straight face.

Eventually there are more good days than bad days. (May…